Up front warning, this review will be a gusher. Yes, dear readers, I adored this book. Bertsche is funny, pragmatic (she does research on how to make a friend), encouraging, and in her own way, makes you feel like you too can go out and find a new best friend. Her ups and downs are more than just amusing, they’re painfully real and it’s refreshing to hear — and be reminded — that friendships are not easy. It’s not always friendship at first sight.
When Rachel Bertsche moved to Chicago to be with her long-distance boyfriend, she reveled in the fact they would be together in the same city. While it was wonderful to be with the man who would become her husband, she missed her friends. The ones she could call for a manicure, for brunch, and to complain about nothing simply because she felt like it and it had been that kind of day. Acquaintances didn’t cut it. She wanted a best friend that would listen, comfort, and laugh with her. She went on the hunt — 52 girl dates in a year.
I won’t tell you whether or not she found the one. You must read it for yourself. And I mean that, you must read this book.
The 52 girl dates are a stark reminder we all want something as simple as a friend and that it’s not always so simple to find a friend. It doesn’t happen overnight and requires work to connect with people. Facebook makes it seems as though we’re all friends but it’s not true. Friends are the ones that listen, encourage, and see you for who you are — they aren’t the like button.
This book also made me think about my friends. I don’t have a huge circle, I never have I prefer small, but they’re wonderful people. I have one who will be leaving for the west coast soon, I’ll miss her dearly, but she’s marrying a fantastic man and I couldn’t be more thrilled for her. I have others that live in far off states that remind me distance really is just a word some days. I’m incredibly thankful for the ones that find me funny and not crazy when I write an email to them laying out all the things that can happen to us while traveling in Ecuador. I’m thankful these people still boarded a plane with me and am so very thankful when I look back at all those photos and remember the time we had. There’s the one that gets me out of my house to swim and drink coffee and talk about nothing and everything. Above all, there’s my sister who will always, always be my favorite girl.
All these people make my life better in some way. I can see why Bertsche took on the task. We all need someone to laugh with, cry with, and travel with. Life is better with friends.
Go read this book. Not only will you be entertained but you’ll be left with a warm feeling about who we are as people. We’re all very much alike even when we don’t want to admit it. We all want and need friends.
If you want to know more about Bertsche, visit her blog MWF Seeking BFF. This is actually how I found out about the book many months ago. I’ve kept reading simply because she really is an entertaining writer. I’m looking forward to her next adventure.
MWF Seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend
By Rachel Bertsche
Random House
ISBN: 9780345524959
4.75 stars
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ree with you that life is better with friends.gI’m in the midst of reading this book. I don’t think I like it quite as much as you do but I am enjoying it for the most part and I agree that Bertsche is funny, pragmatic and encouraging. She’s also self-deprecating, honest, supportive, and more. I think her search for a new best friend and writing about it took some courage and resulted in a smart and inspiring book. I think what’s tripped me up a bit is I find some of what she says a little immature and silly but I think being 15+ years older than Bertsche may account for my different viewpoint.
Your review is great and I definitely agree with you that life is better with friends!
Thanks. I can see your point. There were a few things I didn’t relate to but I considered it a difference in life experiences. I think in the end, for me, the book really resonated.
I’d love to read this. I think I’d really relate to Bertsche’s search.
It’s a story I think a lot of us relate to. It’s not easy making friends, and as she says in her book, we don’t always want to admit that.